This is so so so true. Those post college years are so incredibly important! What will be your hobbies, interests, friends?!!! I totally randomly moved from East coast to San Francisco fort 3 years after college and it was so impactful. It’s glorious. I am in mourning for young people now who are maybe getting their first real professional paychecks doing a remote job with no workplace culture from their studio bedroom.
There is so much here! But of course the almost tangential comment, “I’ve lived in Los Angeles for eleven or twelve years, but I always feel like we just moved here…” is what resonates the most. So spot on! I’ve lived in L.A. for 30 years, and I still think of myself as a New Yorker, the past three decades merely a long hiatus from my real life.
I've always had this theory about the loooong years of early life -- basically, that because they took place when our total span of "years lived so far" was much shorter, and because theyve had so many more opportunities for replaying in our heads ever since, it stands to reason that they'd loom so much larger. But yeah, like you say: all those FIRSTS! "I made it. I'm an adult. Now what?!?"
My theory is similar, but it starts with college: It's that these years are so memorable partly because they involve so much change. In college I lived in a different room (if not city) each year, had a new boyfriend and new classes each year ... then grad school with young husband, then move to a new city and new job and again, for the first few years, a new place every year or two. Once you buy a house, and have a kid and a successful marriage -- the background doesn't change so fast, and the passage of time speeds up.
Those post-college years are worth double, at least. I had a similar college to real-world relationship derailment. I’m amazed at the few folks I know who navigated that successfully.
So true re music and early life. What were you listening to then?
Happy to have you back in Portland, even for a few days! Thanks for supporting local designer and sharing her link! Do take a better picture of yourself in the jacket, we'd love to see it.
My first "real" job after college was in San Francisco. About the 3rd day on, I remember thinking as I walked to catch the morning bus, "And they are going to pay me to do this!!" Right then I would have done it for nothing. Probably until my rent was due again, that is. Spent 37 years with that company and never got all that far away from what I thought on Day 3. Didn't feel like 4 years but it was indeed a lifetime.
Great observation: People obsess over where they and their kids will spend their college years when it's the immediate post-college years that have a much greater life impact.
Also, surely it would improve your selfie game -- for torso shots, anyway -- to simply hold the phone at arm's length rather than involve a mirror!
This is so so so true. Those post college years are so incredibly important! What will be your hobbies, interests, friends?!!! I totally randomly moved from East coast to San Francisco fort 3 years after college and it was so impactful. It’s glorious. I am in mourning for young people now who are maybe getting their first real professional paychecks doing a remote job with no workplace culture from their studio bedroom.
This was such an interesting topic- made me revisit my post- college years… so much going on! Xoxo
Ummm, all I see in the photo is you taking the photo?
I know it’s kind of awful, but you should be able to see the glove (it’s black on a black blazer, which makes it tough).
Oh!!!! Now I see it. Thank you
There is so much here! But of course the almost tangential comment, “I’ve lived in Los Angeles for eleven or twelve years, but I always feel like we just moved here…” is what resonates the most. So spot on! I’ve lived in L.A. for 30 years, and I still think of myself as a New Yorker, the past three decades merely a long hiatus from my real life.
I've always had this theory about the loooong years of early life -- basically, that because they took place when our total span of "years lived so far" was much shorter, and because theyve had so many more opportunities for replaying in our heads ever since, it stands to reason that they'd loom so much larger. But yeah, like you say: all those FIRSTS! "I made it. I'm an adult. Now what?!?"
My theory is similar, but it starts with college: It's that these years are so memorable partly because they involve so much change. In college I lived in a different room (if not city) each year, had a new boyfriend and new classes each year ... then grad school with young husband, then move to a new city and new job and again, for the first few years, a new place every year or two. Once you buy a house, and have a kid and a successful marriage -- the background doesn't change so fast, and the passage of time speeds up.
I agree! Sameness has no sense of time connected to it.
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Those post-college years are worth double, at least. I had a similar college to real-world relationship derailment. I’m amazed at the few folks I know who navigated that successfully.
So true re music and early life. What were you listening to then?
I was a music critic, so I listened to everything, but really fell in love with the Clash, Elvis Costello, Blondie, ska, UB40, wow, so much music!!
Happy to have you back in Portland, even for a few days! Thanks for supporting local designer and sharing her link! Do take a better picture of yourself in the jacket, we'd love to see it.
I’ll have my husband take one — it’s too hard to do a selfie!
Yes,I remember when years lasted forever - they don't make em like that any more!
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My first "real" job after college was in San Francisco. About the 3rd day on, I remember thinking as I walked to catch the morning bus, "And they are going to pay me to do this!!" Right then I would have done it for nothing. Probably until my rent was due again, that is. Spent 37 years with that company and never got all that far away from what I thought on Day 3. Didn't feel like 4 years but it was indeed a lifetime.
Great observation: People obsess over where they and their kids will spend their college years when it's the immediate post-college years that have a much greater life impact.
Also, surely it would improve your selfie game -- for torso shots, anyway -- to simply hold the phone at arm's length rather than involve a mirror!
This was esp. meaningful to me...thanks for the glimpse
xoxoxo
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